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• Say What? Shortage of College Men Sets Women Back 50 Years
  "Thanks to simple laws of supply and demand, it is often the women who must assert themselves romantically or be left alone on Valentine’s Day, staring down a George Clooney movie over a half-empty pizza box." - Reporter Alex Williams discusses the shortage of men on college campuses and the dire consequences facing female coeds.
• Better Sex: The Perfect Gift For Any Occasion
  Our friends Em & Lo recently wrote the book Sex: How to Do Everything and turned their risqué research into a UK TV series. If you don't live on that side of the Atlantic, but still want to learn "everything," you can get the program on DVD. It might make for the perfect naughty, yet educational Valentine's Day gift. Since Em & Lo wrote the book on sex (literally!), I asked the pair for some advice. What's the first tip you would give someone just starting to explore better sex? What works for you trumps any sex advice you get, even sex advice from us! Pay attention to your body and how it reacts, and share those responses with your partner. Also, masturbate, masturbate, masturbate - especially women. It's the best way to learn your body's sexual response. How can you teach a partner what turns you on if you don't know yourself? What should go on the sex to-do list of a woman who thinks she’s tried everything? It really depends who that woman is - a hipster in downtown NYC who attends orgies on a weekly basis? Or a housewife in the midwest who thinks she's a little kinkier than the Joneses? Taboos are such a personal thing, so it's impossible to know what someone means by "everything." So the only way to really answer that is to say, if you've haven't tried something and just the thought of it makes you blush, that's a very good sign that you'll probably enjoy it! Check out our show if you need ideas . . . How would you get a skeptical or shy partner into new sex techniques? To see what Em & Lo have to say and to watch the trailer from their DVD, read more. You could buy a sex manual (like ours!) and suggest browsing it together over a glass of wine - or just leave it on their bedside table, conveniently open to the page you want them to check out. Also, it's often great to suggest new things when the mood is sexy but sex isn't imminent. Suggesting a new activity when you're both naked and about to do it might feel like you're putting them on the spot. But if you're out on a date and the booze is flowing and the conversation is cheeky, you could say something like, "You know what I've always been curious to try. . ." and see where that leads. Of course, you could just get the DVD - it's funny and entertaining enough to be something you watch together for fun, respectable enough to not feel too porn-y, and informative enough that you'll learn some new tricks and techniques to try together! "> " type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344">
• Grab Bag! A Case For Celibacy
  Nonreligious reasons to be celibate - YourTango Is he stringing you along? - Lemondrop The women of black history month - The Frisky Jenny Sanford: bad parent? - DoubleX How to split the bills with your partner - Glamour Why Pink makes a great role model - LilSugar Best and worst cities to find love - Daily Beast
• 8 Budget Valentine's Day Ideas
  Valentine's Day can go from cute to cheesy with one ugly stuffed animal, yet most couples agree they should do something for it. If restaurants are too expensive or too booked and chocolate sounds trite - albeit delicious - here are eight other ways to celebrate Valentine's Day. Watch the first movie you saw together: Rent it, download it, whatever. It's nostalgic, charming, and cheap. Go straight to dessert: If dinner at your choice restaurant is too expensive, go there anyway but only for dessert. Make a mix: It may be the oldest cheap trick in the book, but a playlist is thoughtful, fun, and free. Try 8tracks and Playlist to create easy - and legal - mixes. Get thrifty: Head to thrift stores for something only he'll love. Make a day of it: Feb. 14 is on Sunday this year, so put the emphasis on day instead of night. Play boardgames, order takeout, and stay in bed all day. Get the final three after the jump
• Have You Ever Been in a Long-Distance Relationship?
  Anyone who's had an international lover or experienced the challenges of a long-distance relationship most likely enjoyed Google's Super Bowl commercial last night. In the spot, Google manages to show off its product without calling on the overused emasculated man theme. When it comes to innovation, focusing on romance instead of men suffering through relationships so they can get the car or beer they really want was almost more exciting than the translation tool, flight tracker, or other tricks the commercial shows off. Did the story of a long-distance love hit home for you? Have You Ever Been in a Long-Distance Relationship? Yes No
• Flashback: How to Live With a B*tch
  The Plog blog dug up this rare gem of a book - How to Live With a B*tch - in a thrift store. Author George Leonard Herter started life as the humble heir to a dry-goods store in Minnesota but finished as raging misogynist. When he wasn't calling the pill "racial suicide" and saying men are a fine wine but women a whiskey ("The more they age the worse they get") in his 1969 book, he doled out marriage advice and other chauvinist nonsense. Here goes! On sex "At puberty and through the teenagers your strongest desire is to have sexual intercourse with almost any girl who will lay still long enough to let you. You can get a girl pregnant very easily if she wants you to . . . Either use contraceptives or have sexual intercourse with a girl you wouldn't mind marrying." "Do not establish a nudist camp in your home but keep a natural body exposure around the house on a normal basis. Children, including boys, should see their mother nude wearing external menstrual pads." On women "All facts show that many women have built-in traits to nag, b*tch, insult, try to be cruel and try to be demanding. Such traits, of course, cause much divorce. Again a woman is not exactly like a Canadian goose, she does not intend, in the vast majority of cases, to mate for life." Get more of his wisdom after the jump.
• Do You Think About Your Ex Around Valentine's Day?
  While surely none of us would resort to drunk dialing our ex on Valentine's Day, I'm curious: does the imposed romantic holiday conjure up memories of your past relationships? Source Do You Think About Your Ex Around Valentine's Day? Yes No

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• Men Want Women To Order Steak, Not Salad
  In my experience? Going out with women who eat like small woodland creatures sort of takes the fun out of a meal. And I've heard the old "But I like salad!" refrain. I'm not saying you don't. What I am saying is, I think the only men who will be "impressed" with your order of leaves and roots are the Wrong Men. I mean, seriously—do you want to be with some dude who thinks that when you're out together, it's OK for him to take down the better part of a cow, but you've got to get your dressing on the side? Who is this a-hole you want to impress? Keywords: date, Dating, first date, food, love buzz, meal, single, what men thinkBookmark/Share this post with:
• The Busy Person's Guide To Romance
  Casanova himself couldn't keep up with the ideals of romance set forth by today's helpful movies, but hypothetical help is on its way! If you find yourself intimidated by keeping up with the Bridget Joneses, and settling for nothing instead, RoMints might be for you. RoMints are delicious, bite size nuggets of romance anyone can pull off for tiny scraps of cash and commitment.Keywords: busy, complicated, Engaged, gift, guide, making it work, Married, money, romance, romantic, taken, timeBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• 5 Tips For Spending The Night With A New Guy
  So you've decided to take the plunge and have a sleepover with the person you're dating. Whether it's actually just sleeping or it's the first time you two do the deed, a first sleepover with someone new can be stressful.Follow these tips for an evening of more fun and less anxiety about the things that could go awry.Keywords: anxiety, boyfriend, Dating, first time, guy, men, relationship, tipBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Meet The Staff: CEO Andrea Miller
  You already know YourTango for its smart-silly-helpful content on love and relationships. You rely on Ask YourTango when you have a relationship conundrum. You wait with bated breath for our video content, which often features celebrated love experts. But what about the staff behind the site? Today, we introduce you to YourTango founder and CEO Andrea Miller.Keywords: inside yourtango, staffBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• 6 Non-Restaurant Valentine's Day Ideas
  The classic Valentine's Day celebration is a romantic dinner, but that can be hard to pull off. If the idea of dinner just isn’t doing it for you but you still want to acknowledge the holiday, try out one of these alternatives.Keywords: activity, complicated, date, dinner, Engaged, Married, taken, v day, Valentine's DayBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Lady Gaga: Starving Herself For Skarsgård's Love?
  Last we heard, Lady Gaga was desperate to have a boyfriend — someone to whom she could "expose her true self." Turns out that behind the eccentric costume is a real woman... with real emotions, vulnerabilities and complexes. And just like us, she can be made self-conscious by the demands of a tabloid culture and the thoughtless comments of a pig-headed man.Keywords: Alexander Skarsgard, kate bosworth, Lady Gaga, true bloodBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Gerard Butler Is Jennifer Aniston's B-Day Present
  They're hot (sparks fly while filming The Bounty Hunter) and then they're cold (he's seen kissing every woman on the corner). Now they're hot (remember the Golden Globes?) and getting hotter! So are they or aren't they? And is it to just make Brad mad?Keywords: celeb love, celebrity, Gerard Butler, jennifer anistonBookmark/Share this post with:
• The Best Of The Web: Settling And Do-It-All DVDS
  Lori Gottlieb on "settling" for good enough. Are settling and feminism at odds? 5 deal breakers are a little silly. What 2 must-haves are on everyone's list? Buy Em & Lo's Sex: How To Do Everything DVD, do it. Feminine decor can make a man less likely to feel aroused. When on a date, eat whatever you want, you're worth it. A sex club for husky folks. Love advice from World Of Warcraft. And a gal discusses her deflowering. Keywords: deal breakers, deflowering, flirting, settling, sex: how to do everything, turn-offs, world of warcraftBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Are You Suffering From The Orgasm Gap?
  Women are shattering political glass ceilings, surpassing men in the workforce, and even winning Indy-car races. But there's one area where the gender gap has proved particularly stubborn: The orgasm gap.Keywords: complicated, Engaged, Married, orgasm, sex, sex news, sexual, single, Starting Over, takenBookmark/Share this post with:

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