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• What Dating Profile Cliches Do You Avoid?
  Nobody wants to be a stereotype - or is that just the biggest stereotype of all? - but, we all kind of are. Yet dating profiles are no place to accept the inevitable. OkTrends, OkCupid's blog that quantifies people's online dating behavior, has gathered up people's interests by race and gender. Below is what white women like to admit liking when looking to meet a man on OkCupid. Seeing the same interests in profile after profile is about as attractive as an online wink, albeit less creepy. I'm certainly guilty of a few (Pilates, flea markets, historical fiction), but I try to mix expected interests with the weird, which I recognize is a type in itself. I certainly stay away from this year's biggest book and last year's little film that could. What do you avoid?
• Well Said: Diane Lane Describes the Perfect Romantic Getaway
  "There I was with my bare feet up on the dashboard, painting my toenails, popping crackers and watching the world go by . . . Most of the time we didn’t have a plan. We would just find a hotel - one star, two stars, three stars. It didn’t matter. It’s the moments like those when you marvel at the simplicity of life." - Diane Lane dishes on a recent European road trip she took with husband Josh Brolin, in the upcoming issue of Ladies' Home Journal. A carefree adventure is a memorable way to heat up an Indian Summer romance. Where do I sign up?
• The Club Dance Floor Is Just Like the Animal Kingdom
  Surely, somewhere there's a club called Animal Kingdom, but I doubt its owner knows just how right on his naming instincts were. Psychologist Nick Neave took his hypothesis that dancing in clubs is no different than courtship movement rituals animals exhibit to find what exactly is and isn't attractive about men dancing. I'd say any time a man dances to show off his body, his beer, or his perceived coordination, it's a turnoff, but I may be the minority. Since movements signify an animal's health, age, fertility, and hormone status in the wild, Neave believed the same would hold true for men on the dance floor. He asked 12 men, between 18-35, to groove to German dance music while 12 cameras filmed from every angle. The moves were turned into dancing avatars, which women rated on a scale of one to seven. The men with most attractive moments proved to be the healthiest, based on blood samples Neave took. What's hot? Well, if the video above isn't enough to turn on your own primal instincts, here's a breakdown. Speed, variety of movements (twisting, bending, moving, nodding), and in-control torsos, necks, and heads (i.e. not flailing about) make good dancing. Twitchy and repetitive movements (apparently the technical term is "dad dancing") and movements that involved the legs and arms, but not the rest of the body, are bad. So Jersey Shore fist-pumping? A scientifically proven turnoff.
• Why Are Couples With Daughters More Likely to Divorce?
  Having a daughter increases a couple's chance of divorce by five percent, and with each additional daughter the risk goes up. This might lead you to believe that daughters add extra stress on their parents, but experts say the opposite is true, and in fact, a daughter's supportive role can explain why her parents might divorce. One psychologist explains, "A conclusion we might draw is that wives with daughters are less likely to stay with their husbands because they know that with a girl, they'll never be lonely or without help." Perhaps women, who file 75 percent of divorces, have less of a reason to stay in an undesirable relationship because they know that they have daughters to fill the emotional void. This theory fits with findings we've seen before: girls with brothers don't grow up as fast as their brotherless peers, partly because they have to assume caretaking roles for their brothers. There seems to be evidence that daughters offer significant emotional and social support for their families, almost acting like third parents. But what if we phrased this question a different way: why are couples with sons less likely to divorce? While it may be about avoiding loneliness, couldn't it also be that parents want the son to grow up with a male role model? If mothers often get custody, a daughter will have a female role model, but a son wouldn't necessarily live with a father figure. We can debate the merits of gender-based role models, but might this be a consideration?
• Speed Read! Your Guide to Gossip Girl's Hookups
  Get caught up on Gossip Girl's scandalous hookups before the premiere! - BuzzSugar Fall's must-see art shows - Flavorwire America's most stressed-out cities - AOL Blake, Gisele, Anna, and Bar kick off New York Fashion Week - PopSugar Halle Berry is hooking up with her hot French costar Olivier Martinez - People "Vanity sizing" is common in men's departments, too - Huffington Post Rodney King to marry juror from his 1991 case - Daily Beast Meghan McCain cried when her dad chose Sarah Palin for VP - Jezebel
• Have You Taken Anyone's Virginity?
  Innocence. It's fun to lose; it's better to take. We've asked you the who, when, where, and even how of losing your virginity, but we never asked if you've claimed another's. You may not even know. I wouldn't say guys, or any of us, are all that forthright when we're the only virgin in the room. So whether you know for sure or only suspect, have you been the one? Have You Taken Anyone's Virginity? Yes Not that I know of. Maybe, but I'm not sure!
• Grab Bag! 10 Signs You're Over Him
  How to know you're over your ex - YourTango 20 things men don't know about women - The Frisky One-night stands can lead to real relationships - Em & Lo Postcollege homesickness - College Candy 7 things learned about love in Italy - Glamour The problem with toys for girls - Lemondrop 10 gym guy stereotypes (and why we love them) - FitSugar

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• How To Handle A Man Who Only Texts
  In the latest video episode of Ask YourTango—where readers seek out advice on love and relationships—dating coach and author Rachel Greenwald answers a question from a woman who is struggling to get a man to pick up the phone and call. Rachel advises this reader to retrain her text-happy boyfriend. Watch the video to find out how.Keywords: advice, communication, etiquette, love, rachel greenwald, relationship, romance, textingBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Niecy Nash Thanks God For Gifting Her A Man
  Reality TV star, Niecy Nash got a nice surprise over the weekend when her boyfriend, Jay Tucker, proposed. The bubbly Clean House host was so thrilled, she immediately told her fans the good news, tweeting, "I was asked a very important questions. I said yes!"Keywords: celebrity, celebrity engagements, celebrity love, Dancing With The Stars, entertainmentBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Having Kids Chemically Bonds Couples
  A recent study out of Israel suggests a man's oxytocin levels may actually be on par with their wives/girlfriends during the child rearing process. Researchers drew blood from 80 couples who were raising a six-week old baby and found identical amounts in their blood stream. As the child matured to six months, the scientists once again analyzed the levels and found the same result. It seems that a mother and father's oxytocin levels rise together while they watch their wee one grow.Keywords: babies, baby, bond, children, couple, eye contact, family, kid, orgasm, oxytocinBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Gwen Stefani, Gavin Rossdale Look Happy At US Open
  If you’ve been following any of the news from the US Open, you’ve probably also noticed the reports and photos about the celebrities in attendance. Among some of the cutest we’ve seen include those of Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale, which were posted to Celebitchy recently. The couple, who were snapped while watching the match between Roger Federer and Jurgen Melzer, seemed to be extremely close and affectionate in the stands, with their arms locked together in many of the images we saw. Admittedly, it’s a far cry from our last post about the pair, which talked about Stefani’s angry songwriting binge after rocker Courtney Love revealed on Howard Stern that she had an affair with Rossdale right before he married Stefani in 2002. Keywords: celebrities, celebrity love, celebrity marriage, courtney love, Gavin Rossdale, gwen stefani, tennis, US openBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Halle Berry & Olivier Martinez Have Parisian Fling
  Halle Berry has maintained a low profile since splitting with the father of her child, model Gabriel Aubry, but it looks like love has found her again. According to People Magazine, Halle has been living out the fantasy of bored women everywhere by carrying on a romance in Paris with hunky French actor Olivier Martinez, her co-star in the upcoming film Dark Tide.Keywords: celeb couples, celebrities, celebrity entertainment, entertainment, halle berry, ParisBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Craigslist Shelves "Adult Services" Postings
  Craigslist has been taking it on the chin from Attorneys General in many states and has, at least for now, closed down their Adult Services section. Largely known for its wink-wink massage work, the category has a sign over it stating "censored." The law thinks this will cut down on prostitution and hopefully other crimes. Keywords: Craigslist, happy ending, news, Prostitution, sexBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Body Image: Do You Lose Weight To Feel Sexy?
  Nutrisystem is the latest organization to reaffirm the age old concept that women are obsessed with losing weight to feel sexy. Does your body image affect your sexiness?Keywords: beauty, body image, health, lifestyle, lose weight, SexyBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• Bachelor Pad: Down To 3 Couples (Yawn)
  It looks like the Bachelor Pad is getting converted into a starter home. What started out as a highly competitive show with sexy challenges demanding prowess and skill, has quickly gone down the hot tub drain. Last night's episode was such a joke. It was the poorest example of a competition reality show I've ever seen. The definition of competition is to present a challenge where each person engaging in said competition has a fair shot at winning, right? Not on the Bachelor Pad, apparently.Keywords: bachelor pad, couple, entertainment, Reality TV, tvBookmark/Share this post with: read more
• How Yes And No Helped Me Simplify My Life
  Yes. No. In my mothering lexicon, these are each complete sentences and everyone in my house knows it. Sure, I'm all for conversation, dialogue, discussion and open lines of communication. My husband and I like a good game of verbal volleyball, and we'll talk with our kids about almost anything. But I also reserve the right to not discuss, to sometimes employ just one word. Or make that two. No. Or, yes. Sometimes I don’t even explain. That's okay.Keywords: children, communicating, Discipline, family, lifestyle, mothering, parenting, saying noBookmark/Share this post with: read more

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